Monday, July 23, 2007

On Tuesday, we'll finish up our three-part unit on parenting stress. Building upon last Thursday's unit on parenting of infants and young children, and the guest presentation today by Lori Anderson on parenting of adolescents, Tuesday we will consider how parents deal with children who are older still.

An increasingly popular term for the transition to adulthood is emerging adulthood. I do research on emerging adulthood and have a blog devoted to the topic. This introductory posting provides some background on emerging adulthood.

The transition to adulthood can be a stressful experience, which probably doesn't come as news to many of you. Many individuals in their early-mid 20s are unsure of what they want to do with their lives, and common shifts such as from a college atmosphere to the world of work present many challenges. Several years ago, Alexandra Robbins and Abby Wilner co-wrote a book entitled Quarterlife Crisis, detailing the difficulties of this life stage.

When their emeging-adult children are experiencing stress, parents may also. A potentially -- but not inevitably -- awkward situation is when emerging-adult children move back home with their parents, the so-called "boomerang kid" phenomenon.

This document from the Center for Parent Education offers some guidance for families with boomerang kids. Another report, on Canadian Social Trends, presents some findings on boomerang kids in that country.

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The last hour of class will be devoted to discussion of Chapter 2. As the students in Group B e-mail in their questions, I will add them below...

Chapter 2 begins with how parenthood completes one’s life. [Peterson & Hennon summarize] Beck and Beck-Gernsheim [to the effect] that “parenthood provides a socially defined anchor of mature status, a sense of permanence, and feelings of personal efficacy” (p. 25). With this in mind, questions that arise in terms of adolescents having children is how does this process change or become affected when adolescents have children? When adolescents have children, does the process of parenthood occur the way Beck and Beck-Gernsheim describe or is there a dramatic alteration? Also, because of the developmental transition that needs to be made by the adolescent who has to make a transition in becoming a parent, do you think the developmental transition causes increased psychological distress for them?

On page 35, the book talks about how resources are more potential than actual, meaning that individuals may not take advantage of resources that are available. Why might this be? What are some examples of this occurring?

In Chapter 2, the book talks about the process of generational dissonance, when the younger generation adjusts to the new culture faster than the parents, thus causing acculturative stress. How does then one cope with generational dissonance as parents? Furthermore, the book explains that parents "might perceive this rapid adjustment as a betrayal of the family's culture of origin," why? Is this process considered normative stressors or nonnormative stressors?

Does the process of generational dissonance still occur today among families who have immigrated recently to the United States? (pg 32)

What are some examples of ways in which parental stress can be both a "product" and an "activator" of changes within the family system and larger social contexts?

A common thread throughout Chapter 2 is the cyclic nature of parent-child interactions. Parental stress often activates poor child-rearing behavior in parents, and this causes negative feedback from children. This, in turn, precipitates more parental stress. The vicious cycle of parental stress calls into question the effectiveness of the interdependence between parents and children. How does a family unit escape such a vicious cycle? Are other modes of parenting possible that downplay the interdependence between parent and child? What are the advantages/disadvantages of interdependence?

Here are some studies I alluded to during the discussion:
*The breakdown, by age, of the percentages of pregnancies in the U.S. that are classified as births from unintended pregnancies, births from intended pregnancies, and abortions.
*A summary of mental health in the U.S., including the finding that "...data show it takes an average of nine years for those with depression to enter treatment after the disorder fully manifests; other disorders such as generalized anxiety, phobias and obsessive-compulsive have similar lag times."
*A summary of adolescent identity research, which includes the claim about multicultural youth that, "The most positive outcome appears to be achievement of a bicultural identity that allows the adolescent to function effectively in either setting (Phinney and Kohatsu 1997)."

5 comments:

KT said...

I think generational dissonance definitely still occurs today. I have had a few friends that have parents that have immigrated from another country, and some of the different ways of America have caused stress between them and their parents. For instance, the kind of music that they listen to or the ways in which they dress. I think it may even be worse today, with more media and technology advances than ever before.

Anonymous said...

I agree with kt's opinion about generational dissonance. My friend's parents have immigrated from another country, and he said that he had really hard time figuring out his cultural identity. He did not know why he had to learn his parents' culture including their language that he did not know at all. He also told me that his unstable cultural identity caused less communication and understanding between his parents and him. So, I think generational dissonance still exist today among immigrants.

Anonymous said...

In response to the question about why individuals may not take advantage of the resources that are available for help. One, reason could be due to the cost of counseling services. If the head of household be it mother or father, has a job with medical benefits mental health services are usually covered. Another reason might be that individuals and/or families may not know who they can trust to talk to about their personal problems. Regardless of the cost you need to talk to someone who is well trained in the area of psychology or family counseling. In a lot of cases some families don't get help until social services or child protective services gets involved.

Anonymous said...

In response to how do parents cope with generational dissonance? Learning to cope with cultural changes have an effect on parents who move from state to state as well as from country to country. As a parent, it is ALWAYS important to remind your child about their family history as well as the family values that you, as the parent believe in and live by. As Americans, we become victims of cultural changes all the time. We know that in general, family values have been compromised over the years due to economic changes in our society as a whole. But, each family must decide for themselves what character traits will define who they are at the end of the day.

Anonymous said...

When my brother returned home at the age of 23 I noticed conflict/frustration/tension stemmed from him going out with friends. My parents would worry if he came home late or not at all, similar to how they worried about us in high school. He would not get in trouble if he came home late, but it did increse the anxiety level in my parents. I believe privacy issues were also a source of frustration. My parents house is relatively small, which did not help with these issues.

I believe parents and emerging adult children are able to cope with this trying time by discussing possible sources of conflict and establishing rules and goals.